Sunday, November 25, 2012

Going home...

We headed down to New Jersey on Wednesday afternoon to start celebrating Thanksgiving on the eve. First we stopped at the Sussex County Library to say hello to my mom an the other library ladies. It was nice to be welcomed by some smiling faces, and Neil enjoyed looking at the books. One woman was knitting a baby blanket for her first grandchild. The yarn was made from alpaca wool and oh so soft. It made me want to knit again. Someday I will relearn. Another woman gave me a guilt trip when I told her I planned on returning to work soon. I didn't even know her, but she made me feel like shit anyway. I wish people's opinions of me didn't color the way I feel about myself and my decisions so starkly. I need to work on this aspect of my life.

We were soon sent on our way to Highland Ave and a huge lasagna. My dad poured wine and we enjoyed appetizers with Neil until my mother returned home from work. Neil slept a fitful first night in his travel swing, but he did alright. In the morning we awoke to a beautiful sunrise filtering through the winter trees. Thanksgiving!

 
After we got Neil's needs met, we watched the Thanksgiving parade and the dog show and snacked on breakfast goodies until it was time to move the party to the Schweizer's house up the hill. It was wonderful and quite amazing to introduce Neil to his great grandparents the Abers. You could really feel the love and light in the room. Our Thanksgiving meal was so special this year, and Neil never uttered a crank. He was content to be passed and hoisted and bopped and cuddled until he fell asleep in a heap on his Uncle.

After the pie and the Irish coffee, the Corbetts and Abers left for home and warm beds. We sacked out on the green couch to watch the Jets but couldn't even get through our holiday Beers as the performance was so pitiful.

The next morning we ate waffles with the Schweizers before heading back down the mountain to hang out with the Corbetts for the day. We played with Neil until he couldn't take it anymore and took catnaps on the couches. Finally in late afternoon we drove down to Tillman's Ravine and tried to hike the trail along the creek. The trail had been closed by the department of parks, but we hiked part way until our path was blocked in all directions by downed trees. Sandy didn't hold back much in northern New Jersey. All over we saw trees snapped in half, trees down like matchsticks on the forest floor, patched roofs and close calls in driveways. Later in the evening we tried to venture to Third Base Pub, but it was closed. Instead we enjoyed a wonderful dinner at the Boathouse. My mother and I had pumpkin raviolis with shrimp and scallops, and the guys had filet. Neil was great in the restaurant. He really like snuggling with the waitresses and staring at strangers while they conversed. We saw lots of Christmas lights on the way home. Everyone thought it was strange but I welcome them always after Thanksgiving.

On our final full day in Jersey we hauled back up the hill to hang at the Schweizer house. Anita, Neil and I went to the Balesville church craft fair and N scored a sweet, red hand knit Christmas hat with ear flaps. it looks like it was made for him. We spent the afternoon lounging around the woodstove playing baby games and watching college football. We tried to concoct some home cough remedies for a&g, but I'm not sure they worked. One involved honey, turmeric, black pepper, ginger, lemon and garlic. Sounds gross to me!

Today we traveled up to the Abers house so Neil could spend a little more time with his great grandparents. We talked about past relatives over a veggie pizza and N talked to a placemat. George and Jane showed us a picture of George's grandmother Mary who died when she was 37. They also had her ring, which had an engraved M on it that she used to stamp into the wax on her envelopes. Stories from the past are so interesting...I think George's mother Lela Watkins is part of the original Watkins Glen family...I will have to ask more about this the next time we get together.

After one last cuddle with Big N, the great grands gave us a plant (of course!) and bade us farewell. We enjoyed spending so much time with our family, and we are thrilled that Christmas is just around the corner. This next month will be such a blur of beauty, nostalgia and new hope. (after we get this crying baby home and in bed of course!) It's snowing!


Thanksgiving Highlights

Saturday, October 20, 2012

Nobody tells you this will be hard...

But it is...at least for me. I have a small bag of keepers, onesies I just can't part with for sentimental reasons, and a large bag of more generic clothes to share with future moms. It's thunder storming here, the first time in months, and odd for October. Just like the day Neil was born. It feels strange to be nostalgic for such a fleeting and short time, but there it is. Motherhood I guess. Really it's just a tiny bitter moment wrapped up in a whole lot of sweet. I'm looking forward to every day I get to spend with my little (bigger) boy. Goodbye NB!

Wednesday, October 17, 2012

Monday, October 15, 2012

Holiday Conversation

I had a conversation with Neil today. I felt like I needed to tell him what to expect from the upcoming holidays.

For instance, Halloween, Neil, since this is your first, goes something like this. You get to dress up in a costume, and you can be anything you want. Except this year, because you are a baby, you can't decide for yourself. So we've decided that you will be a chipmunk. Because that's what you look like. And don't worry, we will go to a pumpkin patch and get a nice big pumpkin...and carve a face on it...because that's what we do.

Next comes Thanksgiving. And that's when we all sit about and eat. We eat turkey and mashed potatoes and we get real full and talk. Maybe you can have some sweet potatoes for Thanksgiving this year. And of course grandma is going to want to watch the parade with you...it's a bunch of balloons going down the streets of NYC. It's the best city. Man. You have a lot to learn...but don't worry. You'll see, in your pj's. It's what we do.

And then after that is Christmas, and we'll dress warm and go get a tree. You see, we bring a tree inside and put lights on it and decorate it and we put lights on the house too. And it will snow, but me and Aunt Rebecca hope it snows in November. But not October. Too many leaves. And we will tell you that there is this fat man that comes down the chimney with toys for good boys and girls...and he flies through the air on the sleigh with the reindeer and.....we eat cheese out of a pot the night before. On Christmas Eve, this is what we do...

....

I started cracking up. I couldn't continue. Not because I was running a dialogue with a 3 month old, but because our traditions and stories are just so out of this world funny. I imagined Neil taking notes, uh huh, uh huh, what next? I imagined a seasoned child giving me a skeptical look. I thought of how ridiculous these stories, steeped in tradition, might seem to an outsider, a noob...and I giggled. To a child, a baby, shit's about to get real.

For the rest of us, it's just what we do.

Friday, October 12, 2012

Dr. Bad Guy

Neil, Colin and I just had a four month check up at the pediatrician, and I can't seem to shake off the visit. Neil is doing great. He is 11 lbs 12 ounces and 24" long...almost half as long as me! He has hit most of the four month milestones, though really, he's not quite four months yet. He was cooed at and gushed over by the pediatrician. He did fine. But mom had a bumpy ride. My hackles first went up during a conversation about crankiness. Neil is a consistently happy baby, but we went through a rough spot last week that was so uncharacteristic I wanted to mention it. The talk went something like this:

"Is he ever fussy or cranky?"

"Not usually, but last week he "

"oh! I forgot my stethoscope! I'll be right back."

The conversation was dropped and I didn't pick it up again. Which meant to me either Dr. didn't care or wasn't listening in the first place. And also, I should be more persistent if I want my questions answered.

The second ding occurred when Dr. was talking about transitioning to the crib and sleeping through the night. Dr. admitted to being "Dr. Bad Guy" and adheres to the belief that "no child can ever cry too much" when you are training them to sleep in the crib.

I disagree and it makes me sad.

I guess it's really no big deal that our methods of parenting don't jive. I'm not looking to Dr. Bad Guy for emotional support, just sound medical advice. But I wish that we were on the same wavelength. I wish we agreed on these types of things. I walked out of that office today with little red flags like sticky notes on my thoughts instead of the joyfulness that accompanies a successful well baby visit.

Maybe something needs to change.

Thursday, October 11, 2012

Tuesday, October 9, 2012

Monday, October 8, 2012

Adirondack Anniversary

Today we decided to take a little drive into the Adirondacks to celebrate our 6th anniversary. I heard it was snowing in the high peaks last night and it made me smile. I could just imagine the flakes softly floating down where only trees and animals could feel them. We drove in a loop in the southern hills, near Crane Mountain and Garnet Lake. On our journey we encountered two wayward horses...eager to plant their noses into our car and onto Colin's chest for a treat. We stopped for a few vistas and toasted Ubus over lunch at the Indian Lake tavern. You can see a little table in the picture below next to a fireplace. It was reserved for an older couple who had just buttoned up their cabin for the winter months and were on their way home to Queensbury. They too toasted (Chardonnay and lemonade)...and I thought they and this table were just so illustrative of the finer things in life...a little food, a little drink and a little company next to a cozy fire. What more really, could one ask for in October?

Saturday, October 6, 2012

Friday, October 5, 2012

Thursday, October 4, 2012

Tuesday, October 2, 2012

Saturday, September 29, 2012

Tuesday, September 25, 2012